Post #18

Chapter 10 I found to be severely boring and uninteresting. But I came upon the attachment styles which I found odd because Professor Simpson lectured on this for chapter 14 personality. So basically I already knew this before reading it, score. Although, the book through in the idea of disorganized attachment. This form of attachment is the rarest of styles. It in a nutshell, is when a mother returns to the child, the child appears dazed and comes up with multiple different responses. Fairly self-explanatory by its name. 

Also interesting, is how different the cultures set in. Japanese babies tend to fall more under the insecure-anxious category, where as American babies tend to fall under the insecure-avoidant category. The explanation for this was vague, but came down to the idea which American children are left alone more often than children from Japan are. I was one of those babies that was left alone a lot. My mother tells me stories of how I would sleep in a different room. The first few nights every time I would cry, one of my parents would come into check on me, but as time wore on they just stopped rushing to my side. And I have been independent my entire life since. 

I wish the text and the lecture, went further into any given research about how these styles affected people as they grew older because it was only tested in babies. Because maybe my parents off hand way of parenting when I was younger played a hand in how I am today. My mother also told me she was just as independent as me at my age, which goes along with the idea of off- hand parenting. Because my mother was the eighth child in her family, and at that point my grandmother just didn't 'care.' 

The text goes onto talk about correct parenting styles, which I found interesting too, though I am not planning on being a parent myself. The studies behind the different styles are only correlational and therefore cannot be taken seriously. But based off of the different styles presented, there seems to be a bias towards the authoritative. This is because it says, 'taking the best of both permissive and authoritative.' The statement shows a bias towards this style by its wording and also because it is claiming both styles have flaws and so authoritative is a combination of both but only the good parts of them.